Goodbye Brett

-He’s not coming to Minnesota to be a Viking … but I am sure my partner would love to see him … in the locker room shower!

Ultimate Answers

-It’s Tuesday … and the month is fading away faster than grains of sand through an hour glass … as summer is quickly winding down and we prepare to head into what I like to call the third and last month of summer.

Sometimes in life, you have to answer the difficult questions … even though you may not want to …

If …

• If you could decide how to spend your last day alive, what would you do?

I do not know what my life will be on my last day.  As I get older, and as I read the obituaries every day in the local Duluth news paper – the thought does go through my mind.  As I’ve told Steve on a few occasions … when your 63, you realize you have a lot less days ahead of yourself – than you have behind you.  One thing, I just know for certain – that I do not want to spend it alone.  Even though I think about it more frequently now than at any time in my life – I want it to be a day, with Steve close by my side -  that is not sad but I want it to be fun and smiles – a day full of laughter, joy and love.  I’ve had far to many days of sadness for various reasons, which I sometimes think have over shadowed my life – worry about others and trying to help others get by or get through one event after another.  I’m thankful for Steve coming into my life in 1999 ~ and I’d want his every reassuring words to comfort me, and his smile to brighten my view and his embrace to show me his love.  But – I prefer not to know when my last day will be. I would rather it just ends peacefully and quietly … with my partner and family by my side.

• If you could decide what will be written on your gravestone, what would you have inscribed?

I do want a gravestone or headstone as they are called.  I am not sure if I want to be buried the way most people have been or if I want to be cremated and to have my ashes scattered some place. Somewhere like a beach or a park or a place that meant a lot to me.  I don’t even know where that would be.  Steve and I have talked about being buried side by side – but I realized that he will probably be buried some where near his mom and dad in south central Minnesota.  Where people will visit and not feel death but life – instead. I do not want just my family and friends to visit but it will be public so people will always be around. I want it to be a happy place where I can be laid to rest … a place of joy.  I guess I would want written these words: Ambition ruled his mind, determination like his was hard to find.  He was kind, and he had a heart filled with love for those he loved so dearly.

• If you could choose the single most valuable thing you ever learned, what would it be?

You have to be kind in life.  What goes around, comes around. I have seen it so many many many times. You have to be careful how you treat people and what you do and or say to them.  There really is a balance in life, and you need to respect it.

• If you were kidnapped and allowed to telephone one person for one minute only, who would you call?

To me the most logical answer would be call for help.  I think I would call the police.  If I could not call the police I would call Steve.  He would know what to do or at least make me feel safe in a scary horrifying situation.  He would give me strength.

Those are my ultimate answers to these life revealing questions.  Some times it is good to face the hard issues of life, so that when we pass them by – we can truly see the beauty of what life has to offer.

What are yours?